In the meeting
As the manager, you should take the lead to set up an informal tone for the meetings. Focus on asking questions and listening attentively to understand the feedback. Don't forget to wrap up each meeting and prepare for the next.
Keep It Informal
Keep your 1-on-1 informal and private. It is best to find a relaxing place where you can hold a private conversation. Some ideas are to go for a walk, to have a coffee in the neighborhood cafe, or to talk over lunch.
It is a good habit to prepare some questions you want to ask. When conversations come to a certain topic, such as work habits or personal learning, you can use the questions to get more feedback from your team.
A well-asked question is a powerful tool because there are so many things one does not think of sharing until being asked.
As mentioned earlier, one-on-ones can be about almost anything. However, there are some common topics that managers like to cover. Here is a list.
1. Work habits
You want to understand how each of your team members operates. Once you learn their productive modes, you can support them to work more efficiently. Here are some questions regarding work habits:
- Which part of the day do you feel most productive? When do you feel that your energy and focus are at the lowest level? What are the changes that can be made so you can make the best out of a workday?
- What were your biggest time wasters or roadblocks last week or the week before?
- What do you do when you get stuck on something? What is your process of getting unstuck? Who is the team member you turn to for help?
2. Team collaboration and relations
You can increase team productivity by improving the interpersonal relationship amongst team members. Ask the right questions to uncover the hidden challenges and opportunities.
- Who inspires you in the team? Whose opinions do you respect? What have they done?
- Is there anybody in the team that you find it difficult to work with? Can you tell me why?
- What do you think about the amount of feedback on our team? When do others give feedback to you? Would you like to hear more feedback from other team members and me?
- What do you think would help us work together better? Any suggestions for improvement in the way we work together?
3. Team’s happiness
Personal happiness has an undeniable impact on productivity and engagement. When is a better time to dig into a happiness issue than a 1-on-1 conversation? Grab the opportunity so you can help your team be happier at work. Here are some questions you can use:
- Are you happy working here? Are you happy with your recent work? Why or why not?
- What keeps you engaged with your daily work? What can I do to help make daily tasks more engaging?
- What kind of projects do you enjoy working on? What motivates you to work on a project? Can you name three things we can do to help so you can enjoy your job more?
- What is the best accomplishment you had since you are here? Do you feel appreciated for it?
- What are the things that worry you? Anything on your mind? Have you ever felt undervalued here? Why?
4. Short-term goals
Your team’s feedback on their short-term goals will keep you aligned with their progress as well as their frustrations on the projects. It is healthy to address frustrations timely. Ask some questions, like:
- How is the project going? What can we do to help?
- What are the main bottlenecks? Can we do anything to move it along?
- What are the projects you would be interested in working on next?
5. Long-term goals
Long-term goals are important to a person’s sense of fulfillment and happiness. Your team members like to see that they are making progress toward their big life goals. You want to learn about their goals, and whether their current job fits into those goals. Here are some questions you can use:
- What do you want to achieve in the next 3 years?
- How do you think about your progress on your big goals? What needs to be done to move towards the goals? What can we do to help?
- Which part of the work here do you feel as most relevant to your long-term goals? What kinds of projects do you want to take part in to move toward your goals?
6. Personal development
You want to find out if your team members take learning and development the same way as you do. Some of the following questions can help you learn more about their motivation.
- Do you feel like you are learning at work? What are the new things you learned lately? What are the areas you want to learn about?
- Who in the team do you want to learn from? Whom do you get valuable feedback from?
- Do you think that you receive enough feedback? Is feedback helpful for your personal development? What can I do to help you get the feedback you want?
- Would you like more coaching? What aspect of your job do you like more help and coaching on?
7. Manager improvement
It is crucial for you to know how your team thinks about you and your management style. It is challenging to get honest feedback specifically about you from a direct report. Set the right tone and choose your questions wisely. Here are some examples:
- What can I do as a manager to make your work easier?
- What do you like about my management style? What do you dislike?
- What is the percentage of my involvement in your daily tasks? Would you prefer more or less?
- How can I support you better?
- What is something I could have done better? What are the situations that I could have helped more but didn’t
You should listen to your employee’s insight carefully. It is important to remember that you don’t just listen to be polite. You want to really understand what is being shared. Active listening involves:
Asking clarifying questions, something like: "Let me know if I got you right. Do you mean that you would rather see me being less involved in your daily task?"
Paraphrasing the giver’s view, such as: "So you are saying that I should give you more autonomy in making a decision regarding your daily tasks."
Acknowledging their feelings, for example:" I understand your strong feeling about your independence at work."
Clarifying questions and reaffirmation bring you closer to what is being expressed. By showing your recognition and respect toward one's feeling, you are to build a stronger relationship with your team.
Wrap Up & Suggest Next Moves
At the end of the meeting, you should wrap up the talking points. It is also essential to suggest an action plan until the next meeting.